Signs and symptoms: Insomnia, appetite loss or excessive eating, inability to concentrate, hysterical crying fits, self-pity, crying over a love song, lack of direction in life
Diagnosis: A Broken Heart
In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is “saying goodbye” and “letting go”. At the beginning and at the end of a relationship, we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, that’s the way love goes. That’s the drama, the bitter-sweet risk of falling in love. Everyone has had her heart broken at least once in her life time. If you haven’t recovered from one; still in the process; making yourself believe you’re over it but the truth is you’re not; or maybe you’re just one of those bullish who think they can conquer all types of pain; here are some helpful tips and some friendly advices. Hope it could help you inflate your deflated heart, cause in my case, it sure does. :) ---(well that was before)
1. Let it go
Moan. Sob. Cry your eyes out and let it all hang out. Rid yourself of all-consuming anger and vent every ounce of vitriol in your system. We have to cry, to temporarily let go of the pain. Allow yourself a good wallow. Take a pillow and pretend it was him, and do everything with it in every way you want to. Throw all his letters, gifts (even that cute little stuffy he brought on your first date :( ), and his photos of you and him together, away. Grieve your heart out on a guy who was no better than rotten munchies.
2. Accept the reality
So, it’s over. This maybe hard to swallow but the reality is it’s all over. Acceptance plays a part as not all wishes come true…not all love stories end with “and they live happily ever after…” No matter what you’ll do (roll over, play dead doggie) there’s nothing you can do about it. You left without a choice but to believe and accept that he’s gone (oh no…don’t cry….). Accept the fact that he was not ready to be with you, or worse, he has fallen out love with you. Remember, acceptance is the key to healing.
3. Seek some comfort.
Need some lovin’? A) Call your friends and tell them your heartaches for the nth time (they may be a sucker for telling you (or rather scolds you): “te amo na! Kapila kana hambalan nga pa hibion ka lang ya sige ka man japon!” and whacking your neurons off, still, after you belt up from crying and fill her up on all the gory details, she would just give you a bear hug and words of comfort and a shoulder to cry on. After all a friend will always be a friend. B) Eat. Sky is the limit. Who cares if you’re that bulky?(baby fat much?) Chocolates and ice-cream (my comfort food) do wonders in my shattered heart. C) Get a pet. Pets aren’t only cuddly and affectionate but are also a good diversion of your time and focus. Sure you crave human affection but unlike humans, your pet can’t talk so the chances of getting yourself hurt are slim, at least not emotionally.
4. Close the door.
Now it’s time for you to break the chain that ties you both. Don’t be a fool for love. If he keeps calling (or bugging) you to ask for another chance or he doesn’t want to loose you and wants to stay as friends, don’t bite. You won’t only be allowing yourself to fall in love with him again but you’re also making yourself believe subconsciously that there’s something left in him for you when the truth is, there’s none. False hopes mean nothing but emotional boo-boos.
5. Put a font if necessary
You may be experiencing emotional chaos inside but if you stay confined within the four walls of your room chances are you’ll feel even more miserable.Get out and show the world you’re not an emotional wreck. Bash a smile and flash those pearly whites. At first you may find it odd putting on a face but soon you’d become so good at it you’d be doing it for real, without even noticing it yourself.
6. Get busy
Discover things you love to do that you weren’t able to explore because he didn’t approve of them or you didn’t have a time delving into them when you were still together. Schedule night-outs with friends and paint the town red. Engaged in activities you haven’t done before. With so many things to occupy your mind, you’d be so busy to even think about your heartbreak.
7. Move on
An end of a relationship doesn’t mean an end of you. You don’t need a man to make you feel like a real woman. If he can’t see what’s beautiful and special about you then he’s a dumb-ass for that matter. Not someone worth your time and tears. Not someone who deserves you either. Besides it’s his loss not yours. In short he’s worthless. You deserve someone much better.
Breakups can be very painful and tormenting. Sometimes, it even makes us feel like dying. Funny how we feel, so hedonistically superb when we are in love and gruesomely obnoxious after a breakup. We all know that letting go means pain, but it also means happiness ahead. Goodbye doesn’t always mean forever. There will always be a perfect place and time. So live and love. Get hurt and ♥love♥ again.
-tep
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